There are times when you feel bad and you are supposed to feel bad and it is good to feel bad. During those times, the wrong thing to do is to act like you feel good. Inevitably, the bad feelings and thoughts will leak out and continually spoil your show and give you away and you are perpetually stuck in the muck of bad feelings that never go away.
Sorrow and grief are feelings that are human, as God created us. Grief is good and heals. God's grace is greater than any sin.
Love, loving as God loves is a serious thing. It involves sacrifice and real forgiveness
Jesus had harsh words for people who act one way or say one thing, but in reality are something else. He called them hypocrites, which is to say, someone who wears a mask and are just play acting a part, but are really something else.
So, the word is get real.
Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom.
Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over.
Let there be tears for the wrong things you have done. Let there be sorrow and deep grief. Let there be sadness instead of laughter, and gloom instead of joy.
James 4:9 TNIV, The Message, NLT