Graham Cooke spoke at Bethel Church this past week and I caught a few minutes of him and here are a few notes. You can watch him here.
Everything that happens in your life is about relationship with God.We want resolution and rescue, but God wants relationship with us; in what is happening to us, in our situation.We're not fighting against something, but fighting for something.The question for us to God is, "what is it that you want to be for me at this time?"What is the up-grade that you need right now, in your relationship with God?Align with what God wants to be with you right now.God allows situations that bring up our fears so that He can replace them.
I've been watching the remarkable story of Eva Kor called Forgiving Dr Mengele. She and her twin sister were children in Auschwitz for 9 months before liberation in 1945. Today, Eva lives in Indiana. Eva has chosen the path of forgiveness. She also is very brave in confronting those who choose not to forgive and has stood up for her position with many who strongly disagree with her.
Eva is not a theologian, nor a minister. She is a simple person who went through the horror of the holocaust and wanted to find peace and relief from the painful memories. Eva does not advocate (historical) forgetting. She has found healing through forgiveness. Eva speaks publicly about her life and she has sponsored a holocaust museum called Candles.
I highly recommend the movie about Eva. She also has a book.
I have been a member or leader of various groups where there would be one person who would dominate the group week after week. Myself and other people would fret about this. Sometimes people would leave the group, later mentioning the particular person as difficult to be around. I was once successful by genuinely befriending an individual and then, from this place, able to lovingly confront him, which he received well. In the other examples that come to mind, no one who disliked the person's style who was dominating the group was able to get a footing from which to tell him to please dial down. I've thought a lot about this, and I really only have two solutions that differ from the common belief of "you're the leader so you talk to them."
First, unless you are a baby, you're a leader. Yes, even children can lead. Second, if you care for someone, you'll care enough to confront them. If we see a group as a family, it's easier to do these two it…