Whole hearts know how to grieve

The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning,
but the heart of fools is in the house of pleasure.

Sages invest themselves in hurt and grieving.
Fools waste their lives in fun and games.

A wise person thinks a lot about death,
while a fool thinks only about having a good time.

A sensible person mourns,
but fools always laugh.

Ecclesiastes 7:4, (TNIV, TMB, NLT, CEV)

Part of loving is loss. When we lose someone or something we love, we need to grieve and mourn the loss. People who love much will mourn much. The two go together. To mourn is not to be permanently depressed or bitter, although it may look and feel like it for a time.

People who sell themselves as great lovers, but who skip mourning their losses are not wise.
Mourning heals the heart to love again. Grieve it and get ready for new love, life, experiences.